Monday, June 11, 2012



As previously mentioned, Joseph and I had a date on Friday.




Oh heavens, it was so fun.  Look at my handsome boy!  I am catching glimpses of what he will look like as a man, and it hurts my heart!  How did we get here?  And why is he still sleeping so terribly?

But, I digress.


Joseph chose to look around a local toy store, and – Brian will be pleased to hear this- we looked around for almost an hour and didn’t buy anything!  It was so hard for me, but such a good lesson too.  And, to his credit Joseph didn’t even ask! 


The night took a momentary turn for the worse when, walking back to our car from the toy store, my baby got his FIRST BEE STING!

It went a little something like this:

He was karate chopping near a bush,

I heard him start wailing,

a bee flew away from his arm,

he clutched his wrist and bellowed!

I looked at it, saw the welt with puncture-wound center, and said, “Oh!  You got stung by a bee!”

To which he wailed louder and said, “Papa says it only hurts for 10 seconds!!! waaah!”

I half-dragged, half-carried him (I am 6.5 months pregnant after all) to the van and tried to murmur words of encouragement while Joseph continued screaming.

Finally, as I was strapping him into the carseat, I said, “Well, the good news is, Joseph, that stinkin’ bee is probably dead now!”

He looked at me with fire in his eyes and said, “Well that’s GOOD!”

And then we both burst out laughing.


Could you blame me for buying him a hot fudge sundae AND a chocolate milk shake at Red Robin after that?

(his pancreas can!)

He told me later, “I’m GLAD that I got my first bee sting!  Because now I know what it feels like!”


At dinner, I casually asked him, “So, do you want to talk about Batman for a while??”

And, oh readers, you should have seen his face! 

Such delight!

Such enthusiasm!


So, we did!  We talked about Batman the whole rest of dinner, while my heart in equal parts sang and broke.

It sang to be sharing this time with him; to see his joy and to be able to talk about something HE cares about without being so busy with other things.

And it broke because it is just never enough!  I can never have enough patience and time and enthusiasm to give him!

Children are a bottomless pit of need (and adorableness, don’t get me wrong!) and mom guilt plagues me daily!  WAAAH! I might FAIL AT MOTHERHOOD!! (Ahem, Hormones, anyone??)

But, for that Friday night, I had enough for him.


We started a new sticker chart today- and I can’t wait for him to fill it up again.


Liz @ A Nut in a Nutshell said...

This totally touched my heart!

Jenners said...

Oh I hear you!! It is never enough … and I feel bad that I can't give enough all the time. But you know, we give so much more than a lot of parents. You're doing sooooo good as a mom. Your lovely boys are a shining example of that.

Maureen said...

I LOVE that Joseph is getting older now and that you can have these precious conversations with him. I loved this just took me back SO much!
You're right, Caitlin...all you can give never seems like it's enough, but miraculously it IS!

T Rex Mom said...

I think it is so wonderful that you do these dates with your boys. Joseph is at the ate where he is making memories he will remember forever.

Alas, I am sad he has first bee sting. Those really go smart. Chocolate is an excellent analgesic, too.

I really want to start doing stuff with each of the kids but they actually get quite depressed when they are not together. It ends up being more of a punishment than a reward to be without each other.

What a sacrifice and loving mother to spend the evening talking Batman. Is he into the Avengers at all? T Rex has been asking about Captain America and the "green guy". He won't be seeing the movie for a while but his interest is peaked.

ter@waaoms said...

aww, I think it was a great time for the both of you (besides the bee sting, and yay, he's not allergic!)

He will grow up remembering the special mommy time with you and I think that's fantastic.

Caitlin said...

aw, beautiful boy. glad he's not allergic to bees!
they're growing up so fast!
love from Oz
Caitlin xx

Mom said...

Such a scientific little boy! "Now I know what it feels like." I have never heard a child express that sentiment about a bee sting, and somehow it makes me smile.

suzy said...

ok, that was SO cute. i love how brian told you, "caitlin, you are pregnant and holding a huge cake" i can totally see that, ha! :)

also LOVE how sweet joseph looked across the table from you, talking about batman. you are such a great mommy!! :)